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Wedding invitation etiquette

This entry is from our Expert Guest series where wedding and honeymoon professionals share their best tips on creating memories that last a lifetime.

So, you’ve finally popped the question, and you’re starting to plan your special day. It’s an exciting time as you begin to start the new chapter of your life. However, all the things you have to think about can get a little overwhelming, so much so that mistakes can be made.

Let’s scale things down. One of the first things you’re going to do is send out invitations, and it’s important to get these right because they’re the first impression many of your family and friends are going to have of your big day.

So you get things right the first time, here are 8 of the most common etiquette mistakes made in wedding invitations, all so you can avoid them!

Avoid Wedding Invitation Mistakes

Send invitations on time

#1 – Sending the Invites in Good Time

The absolute latest you should be sending for a wedding is eight weeks. Any later, or closer to the date, than this and this, can cause serious problems with people not being able to get the time off work or being able to get everything they need.

This is even more important if you’re having the wedding away from home, or in another country, and you need to make sure there’s enough time to get everything prepared. Be timely.

#2 – Keeping Things Nice and Visual

It’s easy to go overboard with the color palette of your wedding invitation while trying to make it stand out and eye-catching. However, it’s always best from an aesthetic standpoint to keep things nice and neutral and balance your nice bright colors with more neutral colors to keep things balanced and looking great!

#3 – Not Getting the Start Time Right

“It can be really tempting to put an earlier start time on your wedding invitation because you want people to get there early and on time, but people know to get there early, and you putting an earlier time will mean everyone is waiting around a lot longer than needed, and this can cause people to get irritated!” shares Mark Harris, an event manager for Ox Essays and State of Writing.

Buy the proper postage

#4 – Buying Postage without Weighing the Invitation

For most weddings, this won’t be a problem, but sending off a lot of invitations can be expensive, especially if you don’t get it right the first time. It’s so important to make sure you’re weighing your invitation sample, especially if it’s made from card or comes with extras before you pay for postage.

If you get it wrong, you’ll need to pay for postage all over again, and this can be a costly mistake that could have been spent on other things.

#5 – Not Checking for Typos

This is a point that should go without saying, but we still see so many wedding invitations being sent with typos and mistakes, and this just ruins the overall feel of the invitation. Even if you’re not a professional writer, here are some online tools to help you get it right.

My Writing Way /  Academadvisor – Use these tools to check and correct the grammar used in your wedding invitations.

Boom Essays – use this website to edit and perfect the written content of your wedding invitation, as mentioned by Revieweal.

Studydemic – Use this website for copywriting tips to help you plan and write out the content of your wedding invitation.

Essay Roo / UK Writings – These are two online proofreading tools to help you spot and correct any mistakes or typos in your content.

Via Writing – As mentioned by UK Top Writers, use this tool to generate captivating headers and titles for your invitations.

Academized / Paper Fellows – These are two online formatting tools to help you structure and layout your wedding invitation content.

#6 – Include Pre-Paid RSVPs

It’s considered rude for people to pay for their own RVSP to your wedding, so make sure you’re including a stamped and addressed envelope so they can simply reply and pop it in the mail without having to think about it too much.

Of course, this doesn’t matter so much if people are replying by hand!

#7 – Not Writing the Exact People

When inviting someone, it’s very easy to slip up by writing; we cordially invite the ‘Johnson Family’ to our special day or something along those lines. However, this is a huge risk because who you consider being the Johnson family might not be who they think is the Johnson family, and may have just invited dozens of people without even realizing.

For this reason, it’s vital to make sure you’re inviting exactly who you want to invite, and you’re specific with your invites, so there’s no room for miscommunication.

Include all the details

#8 – Include All Essential Details!

There’s nothing worse than sending out an invitation that hasn’t got all the information you need it to have on there. From dates, times and addresses, to dress codes and special wishes, make sure you’re sending out invitations with everything, so you don’t need to send out two or make calls to everyone!


As you can see, there are lots of common mistakes that people make when it comes to their wedding invitations, which is why it’s so important you’re aware of them and can avoid yourself! Enjoy your big day!

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Bio: Freddie Tubbs is a lifestyle and relationships blogger at Big Assignments and Australian help blogs. He regularly attends psychology and blogging events and contributes post to online magazines and blogs, such as Elite Assignment Help.


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Plan your wedding in a short time frameThis entry is from our Expert Guest series where wedding and honeymoon professionals share their best tips on creating memories that last a lifetime.

Can you plan a wedding in a short amount of time? The answer is yes! I’m Melissa, event and wedding planner for Minneapolis-based, MH Event Productions and Consulting. In the last 10+ years, I have planned every kind of event you can possibly think of; big productions hosting 1000+ people to weddings of 250 to small baby showers that only have about 20 people. Whether the event has been big or small, there are times where I have had over a year to plan, then there have been events where I have had only 2 months! Either way, I got it done! How? The key is to stay organized and be smart about it.

Tips To Plan A Wedding In A Short Amount Of Time

Wedding venue

Select Your Venue

If you don’t know where to start when it comes to planning, get the people involved within the event lined up first! This would be your vendors and your guests. The first vendor to book for your wedding is your venue. They are the one vendor that sets the tone; the location, time, date, theme, you name it! This will allow you to narrow down the other vendors needed to make the day complete, as most venues are booked about 6 months out, if not more. So, email a handful in case some are booked already, but don’t forget to do your research and look at reviews FIRST. Don’t just book someone right off the bat because they were the first ones to reply back saying they are available. So research, research, research, even BEFORE reaching out! Just because you are on a time crunch doesn’t mean you need to settle for just anyone.

Save the date

Save Your Date

In addition to vendors, the next group of people to reach out to after booking the venue is your guests, including the bridal party. Although you won’t have all the details to send an actual invite so they have all the necessary information, you can send a Save the Date with the location and your wedding website – Yes, have a website! As you get more information about the big day, your guests can get updates as well and plan accordingly.

Wedding party attire

Choosing Wedding Attire

The attire is next. Being a wardrobe stylist in addition to an event planner for 15 years and also offering it within my planning packages, I can tell you that buying bridesmaid dresses online is becoming more and more popular with my brides, especially the brides that ARE trying to plan a wedding in a short amount of time. Can I also mention that it is easy, too? You can pay a little bit more to have dresses shipped overnight; you can order multiple sizes and return the ones that don’t fit. Again, this is easy for those brides that have a wedding date just around the corner. But what about the guys and their suits? That’s easy peasy! Most guys do not pick out their suits until about 4 months ahead of time anyway, so do not worry.

Find the perfect wedding dress

So you’ve got your vendors, your guests and the attire taken care of, but what about YOUR attire? You can easily buy a dress online from a well-known store although the design will be simpler and not your authentic wedding dress type of look. If you do want that authentic wedding dress style, there are several bridal consignment stores you can visit which are becoming more and more popular or you can buy right off the rack from bridal shops. However, with this option, you need to have patience, especially if you are not a sample size. It is definitely doable though – don’t fret. I’ve had to go that route with brides before and everything was still perfect! Hint: some bridal shops will host sample sales. Photo credit: Tinge Photography

On the other side of things, if there is a little bit of time before the wedding, shops may be able to rush the dress, but it will come with a hefty price tag. In the end though, you will have a brand new dress.

Finalizing wedding detail

Finalizing Details

Then come all the details. This is where it can get tricky as your schedule will get crazy busy in a short amount of time, but 1) that’s what personal days and PTO are for, 2) you gotta do what you gotta do, and 3) just remember to breathe, stay organized and keep your checklist nearby.

After reading this whole blog, are you feeling overwhelmed or scared? This is where the price of a Day of Coordinator or a Full Planner should not have a price tag. Not only will you save yourself stress and time from researching, especially the day of, but we are professionals and have dealt with this sort of thing before. We will get your wedding planned in no time, but again, just be prepared to be busy with meetings and tastings – but who doesn’t like tastings?

Happy planning, future brides!

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Bio: MH Event Productions & Consulting is an award-winning, full service, event and wedding planning company with 15 years of experience based in the Twin Cities.


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