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The world has become a global village bringing people from various cultures, customs, and traditions, closer than ever. Hence, couples belonging to different nationalities who have different native languages but with one interactive language such as English in common are getting married more often. Marriage becomes the most beautiful occasion of their lives, with high emotions and sentiments. Usually, the couple takes a break from their work and plan for exciting and intriguing places as perfect honeymoon destination.
Bilingual marriages have both pros and cons and may become a tough challenge for the couple to deal with. Some issues arise at the start of relationship, when deciding the wedding ceremony or rituals at the wedding, or from societal pressures for parents consent. Marriage is a powerful commitment. “If the couple has a strong relationship of true love and commitment, they can overcome all barriers,” mentioned by Marie Louise from Crowd Writer, in an abstract of a dissertation titled “Why successful marriages failed.”
Barriers To Bilingual Marriage
Some of the barriers in bilingual marriage and ways to deal with them are briefly discussed below:
a) Consent of Parents:
Marriage brings two families together. In bilingual marriage, it can become hard for parents to accept their son/daughter marrying a person speaking another language. There can be a big communication gap between them, which may lead to misunderstanding or confrontation.
The couple needs to assure their parents that they will always remain relevant in their lives, and with an open heart, both parents and the new spouse must accept each other. Speaking to each other is the best solution as they get to know each other better. This can be done by going out for dinner or attending family or social functions. It is significant to spend time together to bridge the gap and get rid of all confusions.
b) Wedding Ceremony:
The wedding ceremony in bilingual marriage would be one of the most challenging occasions for both the partners and their parents as this ceremony is the heart of all the events. With bilingual guests, extra efforts and arrangements are required so that no one feels uncomfortable or lost.
If both the partners can understand one another’s native language, then they can say their vows in the language of their choice. In case, if the ceremony is only in one language, then an interpreter must be arranged to help guests to understand the service.
Another essential aspect of the wedding ceremony is the selection of dress of bride depending upon her culture. “The right wedding gown is important because the bride wants to feel beautiful, comfortable and special on this memorable day,” suggests Sarah John, she provides writing services on fashion dissertation topics. She may choose to honor her culture or that of her new spouse.
c) Rituals at the Wedding Day:
In bilingual marriages, as the two partners belong to different culture and tradition; it becomes hard to decide what rituals to include on the wedding day. “Various cultures have their own classical rituals which are followed consistently, thus becoming part of the wedding ceremony,” says John Dalton, marketing manager at Premium Jacket.
In bilingual marriage, things are a bit different and need to be decided earlier. The best advice here would be to include a couple of fundamental rituals of both the cultures so that guests from both sides feel involved in the ceremony. Inform the guests before, regarding rituals to be followed, so that they can also make necessary arrangements.
d) Contrasting Background:
In bilingual marriage, two backgrounds enrich the relationship, thus promoting wellness and balance in life. On the other side, the obstacles and barriers must be identified and addressed. The way a person is brought up affects his/her mindset and approach. One’s background impacts the values and preferences each person holds. Here compromise will play a crucial role as both partners have to learn to support each other and show humility and courage. To overcome this barrier, it takes the willingness to give up some desires in regards to meet another person’s needs.
Last advice For Bilingual Marriage Partners
Bilingual marriage takes a lot of work, so the couple must be determined with a commitment to combating the barriers with firmness. Always remember love is the key to a happy married life. It is the fundamental essence not only at the beginning of the relationship but also plays a vital role after marriage. The couple must have a positive mindset throughout their life to deal with the bilingual marriage-related barriers.
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Stella Lincoln is currently working as a manager of Tourism & Administrative Management at Academist Help. She also serves as an associate professor at Educator House. Stella holds a master’s degree in Tourism Administration. She writes a weekly blog on a renowned website about various travel destinations.