Bridal Shower Etiquette & Inspiration: The Traditions—And How to Make Them Your Own
Bridal showers are a long-standing tradition meant to celebrate the bride (or couple) with love, laughter, and a few thoughtful gifts before the big day. But let’s get one thing straight: there’s no one right way to host a bridal shower anymore. While there are some etiquette tips that can help guide your planning, today’s showers are all about making it personal, relaxed, and fun for everyone—especially the couple being celebrated.
Who Hosts the Shower?
Traditionally it was considered etiquette for someone outside of the immediate family—like a close friend, bridesmaid, or even an aunt—to host the bridal shower. But these days, close friends, siblings, or even multiple people may co-host. In some families, a mother or mother-in-law might take the lead. Bottom line: anyone who loves the couple and wants to celebrate them can throw a shower.
Who’s Invited?
The guest list is usually made up of close friends and family, often those also invited to the wedding. It’s good etiquette to avoid inviting someone to a shower if they won’t be receiving a wedding invite (with the exception of a workplace shower or other special situations). Be mindful of mixing groups and keep the vibe welcoming and inclusive.
How Many Showers Is Too Many?
Believe it or not, it’s okay to have more than one shower—as long as each one includes a distinct group. You might have a family-focused brunch, a workplace celebration, and a fun, casual couples’ shower. Just make sure guests don’t feel obligated to attend multiple events or bring gifts each time.
Are Gifts Expected?
Gifts are often part of the tradition, but they don’t need to be extravagant or expected in every setting. Many guests appreciate having guidance, which is why including registry information—especially a Honeyfund—in the invitation or on a wedding website is helpful.
With Honeyfund, guests can contribute to meaningful experiences like a honeymoon sunset cruise, a couples massage, or even help cover flights and accommodations. It’s a modern (and super practical) way to give the couple something they’ll actually use and remember forever.
If you’re hosting a more casual or experience-focused shower, you might skip physical gifts altogether and ask guests to write a note of advice, bring a favorite recipe, or simply contribute to a shared Honeyfund goal.
Who Sends the Invites?
The host typically handles invitations—whether printed or digital. Be sure to include all the key info: date, time, location, RSVP details, dress code (if any), and registry links. Sending invites 4–6 weeks in advance is ideal to give guests time to plan.
Fresh Ideas for Modern Bridal Showers
If you’re not into the usual party games and want to mix things up, you’re not alone. Today’s bridal showers are often more about shared experiences than traditional activities. Here are a few ideas to make your event stand out:
- Flower Bouquet Bar – Set up a DIY bouquet station where guests can create their own floral arrangements to take home.
- Cocktail or Mocktail Class – Hire a mixologist to lead a class, complete with signature drinks that nod to the couple’s love story.
- Brunch & Bubbles – Host a casual morning gathering with mimosas, waffles, and zero pressure to play “How Well Do You Know the Bride?”
- Couples Shower – Celebrate both partners with a coed event at a fun venue—like a beer garden, rooftop bar, or backyard BBQ.
- Cooking or Charcuterie Workshop – Make it interactive with a chef-led class or DIY charcuterie board station.
- Spa Day or Wellness Workshop – Think facials, yoga, or even a group sound bath for a unique, relaxing twist.
- Mini Destination Shower – If guests are local, take it on the road to a cute nearby town, vineyard, or lakeside spot.
The Big Takeaway?
There’s no “must-do” list when it comes to bridal showers. Whether you go all-out with games and decorations or keep it super low-key with a cozy dinner party, the goal is simple: to celebrate love and create meaningful memories before the wedding. So, take these etiquette tips as gentle guidelines—but feel empowered to throw a shower that feels right for you (or your favorite couple).
And don’t forget—Honeyfund is here to help with gifts that matter most. Add experiences, honeymoon activities, or funds for the future right to your registry for guests to explore.
