choosing your bridesmaids


This entry is from our Expert Guest series where wedding and honeymoon professionals share their best tips on creating memories that last a lifetime.

How do you ask your gal pals to be your bridesmaid?

This might be one of the first questions you ask yourself after your honey has popped you the big question himself. Because after you’ve said “yes!”, chances are, you’ve bought dozens of bridal magazines and have been scouring Pinterest for the dress. But who will you share all of your ideas with? Who will you want with you when you find the dream dress? Your bridal party of course, and that means deciding who your bridesmaids will be.

Perhaps you’ve had your “list” for a long time, but how do you go about asking them? You definitely want it to be memorable! After all, this is a big moment and you only plan on doing this once. So let’s go ahead and get right down to it. How are you going to ask your best gal pals, the girls who have been with you through thick and thin, to be one of your bridesmaids? Well, you are in luck! We’ve got 8 oh-so-awesome ideas we can’t wait to share!

 8 Awesome Ideas On How To Ask Your Gal Pals To Be Your Bridesmaid

 1.) Name It!


Whether presented in a group setting, or individually, handing a little white box with a bow over to one of your bffs is a very sweet gesture. Even better when opened and it’s a necklace made with their name. At first, she may look a little confused as to why she is receiving such a sweet gift, but we are sure she’ll put two and two together, especially when you ask her if she’s doing anything on the date of your wedding. She’ll be jumping for joy, and every time she wears it, will be reminded of the special occasion.

2.) Just A Little Trip¦


Speaking of using their name¦Perhaps you’ve planned a girl’s trip. Just a quick getaway for the weekend, and you’re holding onto a few more bags than expected. Everyone gets to the house and you whip out monogramed totes packed full of your girl trip necessities. If you’re going to the beach, pack beach essentials, i.e. sunscreen, a small bottle of Evian spray water, and the latest Cosmopolitan. If you’re in wine country, pack up a wine score card, a few granola bars, and maybe a little travel bottle of ibuprofen. Either way, and based off of whatever theme of little girl’s trip you choose, have a little card in there as well asking them to be your bridesmaid. Your girls would be incredibly surprised, and now these totes have so much more meaning!

 3.) Sweet Sayings


That card that was put into the monogram tote or even attached to the little white box holding a necklace, can be one with a unique saying of your own and made on Etsy. For those of us who still put pictures up on the fridge, your bridesmaids will be able to put up their own sweet card, along with some darling words written by you, on their fridge for all to see. In today’s world, we might forget the power a thoughtful card has on us, and with this charming gesture, we are certainly reminded of it. Simple, sweet, and definitely tried and true.

4.) Cup Of Coffee?


We are definitely lovers of coffee over here at Lulakate, and when popping the question to a friend if they’ll be a bridesmaid, coffee seems like a great idea. Meet your gal pal for a coffee, but while she isn’t looking, hand the barista your hand painted coffee cup with the words “I can’t say ‘I Do’ without you!” and when they call her name, she is totally blown away.

 5.) Picture This¦



It is known that memories can be shared by taking pictures. Our thought would be to have a double picture frame with only one picture of the two of you inserted, leaving the other frame empty. Why you ask? And we are hoping your gal pal asks this too. Handing a picture over to her, a look would come across her face, slightly confused as to why only one side is filled. This is when you get all giggly and ask if she’ll be one of your bridesmaids. Then, the other frame can be filled with this exact moment of her saying “duh, of course!” or of the two of you on the wedding day in your pretty dresses.

 6.) Throw A Brunch


Party time! Find a day when all the girls you want to ask to be your bridesmaid are available. Design and plan a special brunch for them posing as a fun girl’s brunch. Can be at home in your backyard or in a restaurant, your choice, as long as you’re able to surprise them with a fully stocked mimosa bar! As everyone is getting to know each other and mingle with their mimosas in hand, have them sit down with a envelope with their names on their plate. Ask them to open their “Will you be my bridesmaid” cards and continue the party with a cheers to your bridesmaids. A great way for everyone to get to know each other and start sharing what your ideas are for the big day.

 7.) Pop The Balloon



You see DIY boxes made for bridesmaids all the time, but this idea is super unique and fun. Definitely memorable, your future bridesmaid actually gets popped the question with this DIY Pop the Balloon Kit! Customize by choosing your colors and what you want your secret message to say. Very easy to make and quite inexpensive.

 8.) Lovely Labels


Let’s get the party started with these custom labeled champagne bottles! Even if you’re just casually meeting up with your girl and hand her this bottle, you can still make it a special moment by sharing in the fun by having a glass of champagne to toast. She can then keep the bottle if she likes and perhaps use it as a flower vase.

With all of these ideas, we are 100% sure, that whomever, and however, you ask your gal pals to be your bridesmaid, they will be grateful and so excited to participate in making all of your bridal dreams come true. We only hope to have inspired you to make this a special moment you and your bffs can treasure for many many years to come.

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Credits on Lulakate Bridesmaids Lookbook:

Lulakate Bridesmaids Lookbook:

Photography by Kat Harris

Styling by Beth Chapman Styling

Florals by Hana Floral

Hair & Makeup by AbpMakeup

Bio: Lulakate is a bridesmaid brand with a modern twist on classic styles. Made in the USA, we are founded by Katherine McDonald, owner and founder of our big sister, Kate McDonald Bridal. We believe in love, happiness, and lots of color. It’s not about following the trend, but establishing the new classic. It’s about dressing your best friends in something happy. It’s about being surrounded by love and friendship on your wedding day. It’s about finding the perfect bridesmaid dress.

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Keeping Your Bridesmaids

This entry is from our Expert Guest series where wedding and honeymoon professionals share their best tips on creating memories that last a lifetime.

You’re ready to get married, and you’d like your best girls to join you at the altar. First, you should figure out one thing: Do you have your girls’ back? The will surely have yours, so how do you keep the bridal party super-happy? With these thirteen sublimely amazing bridal secrets, that’s how!

When it comes to keeping your best girls happy, there are some seriously sweet things she should keep in mind. Check out the amazing tips and tricks every bride and her best girls should keep in mind for a fabulously flawless wedding day.

13 Great Tips To Keeping Your Bridesmaids Happy

#1. Pick Your Girls Wisely

So who do you ask? You want to pick you dearest friends, but you should keep in mind who might have to travel super far. Don’t automatically discount your best friend who has to travel an ocean or two to get to you, but give her a good advance if they live in a far-off land.

On the other hand, if they aren’t your die-hard friend, and you are just trying to match your groomsmen, it might be easier if they’re just a guest. Think about it before you ask certain ladies.

#2. Keep Cost In Mind

No matter what style wedding you have in mind, you should give a bit of consideration to how much it will cost each bridesmaid to be part of the wedding. Make a list of all the things that could be quite expensive on her part:

  • Travel
  • Hotel
  • Dress
  • Hair & Makeup

Do these all come in at a reasonable amount?


#3. 27 Dresses and All That Jazz

If we have learned anything from the movies and real life, it’s that bridesmaid dresses can add up to a considerable amount of dough over the years. Have no fear; there are dresses that are not all that expensive. From sites like Rent The Runway to Ruffled, you can find something sincerely sweet and appropriately gorgeous for your best girls and your big day theme.

Of course, don’t discount the discount stores like Nordstrom Rack, TJ Maxx, and Ross — those guys often carry designer digs for less, and you could also mix and match styles for the perfect array of dresses that fit each girl’s body and personality like a charm!

#4. Keep Versatility in Mind

When it comes to the best dresses, you might keep something versatile in mind. Like a dress that she can wear again, yes, there are some like that. Considering your bridesmaids’ ability to wear a dress again is where we stress mix-and-match styles.

Your best girls come in all body shapes and sizes. It’s important to keep her best assets in mind when choosing styles. Get intimate with your girls. Consult style guides on dress styles that look good on certain body types. Then talk to your girls about what style dress in which they may feel most comfortable. That’s the best way to have a happy bridal party, and a united front on the day you say I do.


#5. Choosing Your Maid of Honor

Your Maid (or Matron) of Honor is the person who is going to take on a very large amount of responsibility when it comes to your wedding day and the days leading up to your big day. You should consider a lot of things when it comes to choosing your Maid of Honor:

  • Who is the right person?
  • Are they super responsible?
  • Do they have an adequate amount of free time to plan events like bridal showers and bachelorette parties?
  • Can they help you delegate tasks to other bridesmaids and groomsmen without being too bossy?

Your Maid of Honor should be the one person you trust above all other bridesmaids to help you tackle your big day with ease and make sure the only thing that gets hitched are you and your groom!

#6. Attitude is EVERYTHING

Don’t ask us why, but a lot of bridal parties can turn bridezilla well before the actual bride. The wedding is supposed to be a time of sheer joy. When it comes to keeping your best girls happy, you might want to evaluate each one and how their usual attitude is – are they demanding? Needy? If so, think about things that keep them on the calm.

Make your day about you and them. They want to share in your happiness, so throw a big wedding morning brunch. Feed them, give them a cocktail and most likely — your Maid of Honor will have enough tasks delegated to keep your bridal party on their toes until it’s time to say I do.Give_Them_A_Killer_Invite

#7. Give Them A Killer Invite

In this day and age, it’s nice to have a thoughtful way to ask your girls to be in your bridal party. There are so many ways from sweet notes to jewelry and all that in between. Pinterest and Etsy are great places to look for cool invites to be a bridesmaid.

#8. Don’t Forget The Thank You

If you go sweet when it comes to the invite, you should probably find a sweet way to thank them for being your bridesmaid. From swag bags to personalized trinkets, thank you gifts are something that should be personalized to each girl to detail all the help for which you are appreciative!


#9. Setting Limits for Everyone

Sometimes our family and friends can get too jiggy with it. After all, they are celebrating you and your glorious day. Keep things in mind like, Do you need to set a drink limit? Sit down with your girls and imagine the day. They can help you think about all the things that could go wrong and get your plan of action set in motion for a smooth reception.

#10. Include Family First

When it comes to asking a special girl to stand by your side, Yes. You do you have to ask family first. Of course, your cousin from another mother twice removed isn’t on the list, but immediate family should be the first consideration for your big day.


#11. Organizing Events

One of the biggest jobs of the bridal party is to make sure everything runs smoothly. Each one should have a special job when it comes to your reception. For instance:

  • Point of contact for catering
  • Point of contact for photography and videography
  • Maid of Honor and/or Best Man pay the officiant
  • Send off organizer
  • Speech organization

#12. Considering Financial Help

Do you have the ability to financially help your girls get to the big day? If you know, one or more of your girls can’t afford a night in a hotel or their dress; you should look at alternative options to maybe cut a bit of cost to get them by your side.

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#13. Forget The Bridal Party & Get Jiggy

Maybe it would be easier not to have a bridal party and just let your friends party. Quite often bridal parties get wrapped up in the planning of it all. After all, this is a celebration. So, there should be no pressure on how strictly it is organized. You should be celebrating your big day, not worrying about the prepping and planning. So why not just have a small party — for one night, and let go before you say I do.

Bio: Maigen Thomas has been writing about wedding planning for a decade and her passion is focused on budget weddings. As she puts it, “I feel that everyone should be able to have the wedding of their dreams on the budget they can afford, and I am always searching for new ways to help a wedding budget stretch further! I write about budget wedding planning, DIY projects and more at”

Additionally, she has been featured on various radio shows as well as on websites like USAToday, ValuePenguin, ThePennyCounter, and US News & World Report.

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