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5 Ways to Reduce Wedding Stress

This entry is from our Expert Guest series where wedding and honeymoon professionals share their best tips on creating memories that last a lifetime.

Stress, anxiety, feelings of panic and overwhelm are the last thing you are probably expecting to be hit with after the joy and excitement of getting engaged, but for many of us (often self-imposed), the pressure to get things right and to get things done can mar what should be an awesome experience.

For many of us, the process of wedding planning can take an uncomfortable turn when you realize just how complicated putting together a super-duper love party can be.

I don’t know about you, but when we became engaged, I was pretty confident that we could plan our wedding without getting caught up in the stress and drama that you so often hear about couples succumbing to… For the most part, we emerged unscathed (minus some guest list panic and having to ‘find’ a couple of extra grand!)

5 Ways To Reduce Wedding Stress

Here are five ways that you can avoid wedding stress or at least hush any impending panic or pressure.

Communication is key in wedding planning

Communication:

So many issues can be solved by clear communication.

This might seem obvious, but a lot of us avoid saying how we feel instead of having a confrontation. Although sometimes it can feel uncomfortable to discuss certain aspects of your wedding planning process such as money, who is or isn’t invited, and how certain behaviour by others makes you feel, by getting past the potential awkwardness and communicating your feelings, you will ultimately avoid a bunch of stress and potential drama.

For many couples, disharmony and stress emerge when they are not open and honest about how they feel. Clear communication means thoughtful communication, no real housewives yelling. Think about what you want to say and what the ultimate outcome of the conversation is.

Remember the outside world

Remember The Outside World

Wedding planning can feel like a second full-time job, as you are contacting vendors, creating seating charts, scheduling appointments in the bathroom on your phone at work… It can all get pretty overwhelming.

It’s really important for you to remember the outside world, that there is life after wedding planning (and during it) and that it is vital to carry on with recreational activities that aren’t connected to planning your big day. Watch TV, do yoga, see friends. Allocate no wedding talk zones. Stay sane.

Ask for help

Ask For Help!

 Asking for help and acknowledging the generosity of those who love you it’s one of the most powerful things you can do to reduce stress.

You don’t have to be a one-stop lady wedding hero. People want to help you. Asking for assistance from those around you is not a sign of weakness, it doesn’t mean you a relinquishing control (which actually isn’t a bad thing) or that you have failed. Instead, it’s a great way to get people involved who want to help you and take the pressure off you. You don’t have to do it alone.

5 Ditch the obligation

Ditch The Obligation:

As I have found hosting the Bridechilla Podcast, so much wedding stress and drama evolve from obligation. We feel obliged to invite certain people. Obliged to spend more money than we have and obliged to keep up with the Joneses by trying to make our wedding look like a styled shoot from Pinterest.

Ultimately your wedding day is about celebrating your love and friendship with your partner and having a fabulous party with your friends and family. When you ditch the feelings of obligation and pressure, you will feel empowered to make decisions that are good for you.

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Consider Hiring A Wedding Planning Or Coordinator

 Gone are the days when hiring a wedding planner or day of coordinator was only something wealthy people did.

There so many fabulous options available to couples, to help ease the burden of event planning. I’m sure 99% of people reading this have never planned events for over 15 people, it’s a complicated business and requires many hours of thought, contacts and money, so why not hire someone who has the existing skills and experience to ease the stress and burden of managing such an event?

If you are enjoying the process of wedding planning, hiring a day of coordinator is such a great opportunity for you to have your carefully laid plans well managed and also make sure you get to enjoy your wedding day to the fullest without stressing over small details.

Wedding planners and coordinators at also often helpful in saving you money using their contacts suggestions and pre-existing contacts and suggesting ways for you to achieve the desired goals without going over budget.

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Bio: The Bridechilla Podcast is hosted by comedian, author, and virtual bridesmaid, Aleisha McCormack. Each week, Aleisha shares her tell it like it is view and unique take on wedding wisdom to help Bridechillas and Groomchillas ditch the pressures and obligations that we sometimes feel during the journey and have fun planning this awesome day. With over 300 shows in the back catalogue, in addition to answering listener questions, Aleisha interviews the world’s leading wedding planners, psychologists and mother-in-law’s.

The Bridechilla Podcast is all about empowering couples to plan the wedding that they want and ditching the stress and meaningless details, that no one will notice…hello, chair covers.

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There is no shortage of reasons why Italy has been one of the most popular destinations for honeymooning – forever. The architecture, the language, the history, and the people themselves are all full of beauty and wonder.

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But, shifting from romantic daydreams to actual planning can be overwhelming, and not nearly as much fun.

We recommend starting with a list of your “must-sees,” then consider what types of activities you and your love like to include in your perfect vacation. However, if seeing the David, sightseeing in Rome, drinking wine in Tuscany, taking a gondola ride in Venice, exploring the caves in Capri, AND hiking the Dolomites are all on your short list, you should probably start by taking out a map and deciding if you really have the time, or desire, to travel to all these places in one trip. Over-planning your honeymoon can be almost as stressful as planning a wedding.

Once you’ve decided the areas you’ll be visiting, take inventory of what your other interests are. Do you like to cook? Is your betrothed into hiking or biking (or another sport)? It’s easy to get off the beaten tourist path and find cooking classes, hiking/biking trails, fishing trips, etc. that will satisfy your adventurous spirit and give you an authentic Italian experience doing something you love.

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Lastly (but by no means least), it’s important to understand that as Americans we often have a different sense of comfort than others. We like our beds big, our towels plush, hotel gyms complete, outstanding customer service, among other things.

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For these reasons, we love the collection of hotels from Marriott.

Each and every property offers a feature that will delight your senses and make those moments of total relaxation as memorable as any sight in Italy.

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See the hotel that is right for you.

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