maid of honor

This entry is from our Expert Guest series where wedding and honeymoon professionals share their best tips on creating memories that last a lifetime.

One of the beginning stages of your wedding planning process is selecting your wedding party and most importantly, carefully choosing your maid of honor (MOH).

First, understanding the role of a MOH is important to know, as this is one of the most important people (besides you) in your wedding. She should be a person close to your heart, as she will be your extra life line who will help you when you need help during the wedding planning process.

Maid Of Honor:Duties

  • She will be a constant ear and the person to bounce design ideas off.
  • She will help to organize parties surrounding the wedding like the wedding shower and the bachelorette party.
  • She will help with wedding DIY projects.
  • She will assist you with tasks such as setting up your bridal registry and honeymoon registry.
  • She will be the one how to bustle your dress at the wedding in a short period of time, as well as pick it up when you need to go the bathroom and arrange it when you are at the altar.
  • She is also the person who would give a toast on your behalf at the wedding.

These MOH duties are extensive, and choosing the right person needs some careful consideration.

What Should You You Consider When Choosing Your Maid Of Honor?

Best friends

TIP #1 – CHOOSE A GOOD LISTENER

You want to have this person know you well, and also be someone who can listen and pick up on your real wants and needs. That way, all the small details of your wedding shower and bachelorette will be the best reflection of you, and not what the MOH happens to think is cute. This is a time for you to enjoy your family and friends, but if the color pallet is off or the flavor of cupcakes makes you want to hurl, the experience may seem impersonal and a bit of a flop.

Tip #2 – SENSE OF HUMOR

With the wedding planning process being from six months to over a year long, having a good sense of humor is a great asset that will be greatly appreciated.  Keeping the bride laughing throughout all the major decisions will keep the bride at ease.

Tip #3 – PROXIMITY

As much as your best friend may not be living close to your house, choosing a MOH that lives on another continent is like asking for ice cream in the middle of a blizzard. Choose someone that can be there, and not have to miss major events like dress shopping and cake tastings.

Bachelorette party

TIP #4 – CHOOSE A SOCIAL BUTTERFLY

The MOH who likes to socialize and is comfortable being in larger group settings will make for smoother bridal party planning. Being able to happily communicate to the group about dress fittings, registries, and bachelorette party ideas will definitely take a load off the bride in knowing the MOH has it covered.

Tip #5 – VISION

One of the biggest parts of wedding planning is finding your vision. If your MOH has a good sense of your style, you are more likely to become more excited about the bigger picture. Not feeling understood, or feeling like you hit a creative roadblock is not so fun. Having your MOH be able to see your vision as well as come up with cute ideas that match your style only adds more positive light to the whole experience.

Wedding party

Tip #6 – WEDDING PARTY EXPERIENCE

Although your MOH may not have been in a wedding before, it is always a bonus to have someone who knows the ropes and what to expect. A person with wedding party experience will likely be more supportive of the wedding events, instead of asking stressful questions the bride may find annoying.

Tip #7 – KNOWING YOUR WEDDING PARTY

Choose a MOH who knows your wedding party already.  That way when making arrangements she doesn’t feel lost and out of place.  Creating a comfortable setting amongst friends can only make the bride smile more knowing her MOH is keeping everyone happy.

Trainkeeper

Tip #8 – HUSTLE AND BUSTLE

A good MOH will know how to bustle your dress. Choose someone that has the capability to bustle your dress in a short period of time.  Every minute counts on the wedding day, and taking 45 minutes to figure out which string goes on which button can take important time away from your wedding day.

#9 – PERSONAL NEEDS

Choose a MOH who will be able to pick up on your bridal needs. Someone who knows you well will be able to pick up on the small details will only add to your happiness. If you’re a crier, she will have the tissues ready. If you are forgetful, she will make sure you to have your clutch close by.

Choose a MOH who understands planning a wedding is making life long memories not just for the wedding day, but for the whole wedding planning process. That’s why choosing the right MOH can really add to those memories and in the end bring you closer than you were before.

Maid of honor toast

Tip 10 – ROASTING ABILITIES

A good MOH will always have some good dirt on the bride, whether it’s from college years or growing up as kids. This only makes for more laughs when it’s time to toast, which ultimately adds to creating more of a connection with the wedding guests.

Don’t be afraid to let the MOH tell some fun and personal stories about the two of you.  It only makes for a more memorable experience.

Wedding Planner Julia is the owner and operator of Blue Water Wedding, a local Florida Keys Planning and Design Company. Her extensive experience planning events for several years overseas and locally has brought her a dynamic design sense making each event unique and completely custom.  Boutique weddings are her specialty making sure the bride is ecstatic but that her guests feel welcome and comfortable. Going above and beyond is what Blue Water Weddings strives for, as no event is the same and your personal needs so you don’t skip neat on your special day.  where you’re dreams really do come true.

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This entry is from our Expert Guest series where wedding and honeymoon professionals share their best tips on creating memories that last a lifetime.

When you are chosen as a bride’s maid of honor, it is a time-honored tradition that embodies what true friendship is. However, being deemed the MOH is not just about friendship, it’s about trust, and with that comes obligations that need to be carried out.

Ten Best Tips for Being a Great Maid of Honor

Just put the pressure on right? Here are ten best tips for being the best MOH there is in this wedding planner’s eyes. Grab a glass of wine and a notepad, and I challenge you to start your very own list for this supporting role!

Maid of honor supports the bride

Tip 1: Be there for support.

A no-brainer right? Planning a wedding is no easy feat, and it can be stressful, so lend an ear or a helpful hand when the bride needs it. Don’t be there just in the stressful moments, but in the fun moments too. Help create quiet moments or little getaways just for the two of you that will be something you can cherish for a lifetime to come.

Tip 2: Party time! You’re the planner.

Once engaged you get the honor of throwing the bridal shower/aka the bachelorette party. Include the bridesmaids and moms to help you but this often goes to the MOH as an obligation. Have fun doing these parties and creating lasting moments that you both will laugh over! You 

Tip 3: You’re the official record keeper.

Help her keep a record of the guests who purchased gifts for them so they can send out thank you notes promptly. Make sure that her cards and gifts are organized in a place they know, should they leave right away on a honeymoon.

Tip 4: Get ready to be crafty if need be!

If the bride wants to do some DIY projects, get on board with her in helping to get those done. The last thing you want is a bride who has not accomplished her to do list.

Know the schedule

Tip 5: Know the schedule.

You and the Best Man are in charge of the rest of the wedding party. It is up to you to make sure that you tell them where the rehearsal is, what time, and how long. Make sure they know what is happening and not to forget anything. With that being said, work as a team for your couple to make things go smoothly.

Tip 6: Prepare for inevitable speaking obligations.

To prepare for giving a toast at the reception and other impromptu events, sit down and write a couple of speeches of why the couple is special to you and why they are going to be so together. Make sure to put in some funny moments and some memorable moments. Always make sure to thank them for allowing you to be a part of their journey.

Tip 7: Capture picture perfect moments.

When it is time for her to put on the veil, smooth out her dress, or help with the bustle, be there and be prepared. Those candid moments of you assisting her will lead to amazing memories.

MOH holds bridal train

Tip 8: Remember your role as the dress holder & official bathroom helper.

Yes, you are bestowed with the honor of helping the bride get to the bathroom without getting that dress in any precarious situations. Note to one’s self: These can lead to some hilarious selfies and or photo opportunities.

Tip 9: Hold the Ring!

The time has come, and you are standing next to her listening to the vows and as Maid of Honor you get to be the holder of the ring that will be the symbol of their next step.

Tip 10: Remember that this day is her day.

Smile, be gracious, kind, giving, & adore her.

She has chosen you for a reason, so do not make her regret that decision.

Bride hugs MOH

Jaclyn Watson Events is a premier destination wedding and event planning company based in the majestic green mountains of Vermont. Their expertise is creating breathtaking, one-of-a-kind weddings and events with an emphasis on Vermont and fellow New England States. Passionate about perfectly capturing your love, vision, and even personal quirks, they believe that the details, even the smallest ones, are what make a wedding a life changing event. The event of you becoming a wife, a husband, a partner for the rest of your days; starting with the most amazing day you have ever experienced (well, so far!). You can see their work at www.Jaclynwatsonevents.com

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