Wedding Reception

The first dance at your wedding

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This entry is from our Expert Guest series where wedding and honeymoon professionals share their best tips on creating memories that last a lifetime….

The first dance for any couple is one of the most important moments of their entire wedding – and with good reason! A lot of thought and emotion goes into picking that very first song and it has to be just right. Some couples go for a classic slow song, while others choose to choreograph a dance to something a bit more fast-paced. Both are personal choices, and both are always crowd pleasers!

Below, we have put together a list of ten first dance favorites that are often chosen by couples to dance to on their special day!

Make your first dance memorable

Top 10 First Dance Favorites

“Unforgettable” – Nat King Cole

This tune is the embodiment of a classic song that has stood the test of time, as it has remained a top choice for couples everywhere. If you and your partner are fans of a romantic melody, then why not say “I Do” to the emotional vocals of Nat King Cole? His crooning voice will surely fill your hearts from the first several bars.

“Thinking Out Loud” – Ed Sheeran

Newer to the scene, Ed Sheeran’s smash hit became an instant wedding classic, thanks to the loving words and singsong melody. I mean, the music video is all about a romantic dance between lovers! It is no wonder with beautiful lyrics like “Kiss me under the light of a thousand stars. Place your head on my beating heart.” We predict that couples will be dancing to this song at their wedding for years to come!

Center stage for the first wedding dance

“I Found You” – Alabama Shakes

If you are the type to have happy feet and the idea of a slow song doesn’t mesh with your upbeat personality, then you and your new spouse will love tearing up the dance floor with this faster paced crowd pleaser. This melody has been resonating with couples since its release in 2012 and continues to be a popular favorite.

“Stand by You” – Rachel Platten

Just released this year, “Stand by You” has already made quite the impression on couples planning their wedding in 2016 and all you have to do is listen to the words to know why. Rachel Platten’s gorgeous voice and upbeat melody have couples celebrating their love all across the dance floor.

Personalize your wedding dance

“You Are the Best Thing” – Ray LaMontagne

This was made for the soulful couple that prefers to enjoy a rich glass of red wine together alongside a blazing fireplace. It is full of sweet lyrics that couples can relate to when it comes to their feelings for each other and it will be sure to put a smile on everyone’s face – including the guests’!

“At Last” – Etta James

Heralded as the most popular first dance song ever, “At Last” remains at the top of everyone’s “must play” list. Etta James sure knew how to capture the hearts of couples in love all over the world with this one, and it is always guaranteed to bring a tear to everyone’s eye.

Pledge your love with a great song

“All of Me” – John Legend

Written for his fiancé (now wife), Chrissy Teigen, John Legend captures their sweet relationship perfectly with this slow and tender ballad. Couples everywhere swoon over his melodic voice and the obvious emotion behind it when he sings this song, so what better way to capture that same mood for a special day?

“Lucky” – Jason Mraz & Colbie Caillat

A popular choice for beach weddings, “Lucky” has a fun and airy feel that couples with their feet in the sand love to dance to. This tune is certainly the way to go for lovebirds that truly are one another’s best friends, through thick and thin! As a duet, it could even make for a great choreographed dance between the pair.

Romantic first dance

“Rose of My Heart” – Johnny Cash & June Carter

For the couples that are prefer a more country and folksy sound, “Rose of My Heart” encapsulates the legendary love story between June and Johnny. Guests of all ages will love watching you dance to this tune and it is guaranteed to bring out the emotions on the dance floor.

“What a Wonderful World” – Israel “IZ” Kamakawiwo’ole

A remake of the ever popular Louis Armstrong song, this Hawaiian version took the wedding industry by storm a few years ago and has become a favorite for many couples. The fun melody and Israel’s beautiful voice make it a great option for destination weddings and at-home weddings alike.

Play out your relationship in music

Why Pick Your First Wedding Song Carefully

The first dance song is a personal choice for every couple, so take your time when picking the very best tune for your celebration. Whether you share a favorite song from your first date or there’s a new single that just speaks to your relationship, remember that the song you choose will have a special place in your lives for years to come. Whatever you choose will be right for you – there is no right or wrong answer. Happy listening!

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Bio: Kevin Dennis is the owner of Fantasy Sound Event Services, a full-service event company based in Livermore, Calif. Dennis is the current chapter president for Silicon Valley NACE, and the immediate past national president for WIPA.

 

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Is a cash bar in good form

This entry is from our Expert Guest series where wedding and honeymoon professionals share their best tips on creating memories that last a lifetime….

Every couple hopes that their wedding will be a fun celebration for their family and friends- and as a planner I know how much goes into planning the perfect party.

When I ask what the “must haves” are of my clients on their wedding day, their response is always that the guests HAVE FUN- great food and music…and then there is always a conversation that leads to talking about the controversial topic of alcohol.

Very few Western weddings are alcohol-free, so the discussion over the type and level of alcohol service must be had when planning a wedding.

Champagne at wedding

TYPES OF BAR SERVICE

There are several popular ways to set up alcoholic beverage service at your wedding.

  • A “host” bar; where the couple or family pay for the entire bar bill and guests do not pay anything.
  • A “loonie or toonie bar” (these are more common in Canada, since these coins don’t exist elsewhere.) This is where the guest pays for $1 or $2 towards the cost of the drink that the couple is being charged by the bar/venue. The couple pays the remaining cost of what they would be charged for each drink.
  • A full cash bar, where any alcohol a guest wishes to consume must purchased in full by them.

Having a cash bar

IS A CASH BAR ACCEPTABLE?

Some couples question whether or not they can charge back some or all of the alcohol to the guest. This is always cost and budget related. But can it ever be considered appropriate to charge your guests for their own drinks?

The short answer by etiquette experts is a resounding NO.

Everyone knows how expensive weddings have become these days- between the venue, the food, the dress, the DJ, or band…is there any way to save money? Couples often turn to the bar bill as a place to cut the largest amount of money, when, unfortunately, it will bring the highest amount of attention (and resentment) from your guests.
What alcohol options should you offer?

PREPARE FOR THE BACKLASH

Most guests plan to enjoy a couple (or several) beverages at a wedding reception. Forcing your guests to bring cash to your wedding poses some problems:

Many people don’t carry cash anymore. Not having an ATM means that they won’t even have the option to buy a drink or not. If they planned to have a drink or two and now have to either skip it or borrow cash, this isn’t going to sit well as much “fun.”

However, having an ATM on site or nearby means they’ll have to withdraw cash (and pay an additional, often ludicrous bank fee) in order to partake. This is a fast track to an unhappy guest. Now they have to pay full price for a drink AND the cost of taking out the cash.

The reason you don’t want to pay for the drinks is because of the high cost per beverage. Drinks are often $7-$9 by the time the bar charges the mandatory service fee and gratuity.  Passing this on to your guests is glaringly obvious and says “We aren’t willing to pay this price, but we hope you will!”

Is serving drinks important to you?

FOCUS ON WHAT’S MORE IMPORTANT TO YOU

Wedding expenses are widely known and generally accepted as a part of society in today’s age. There’s a sense of reciprocity: You get dressed up, attend the festivities, and purchase a gift for the couple and when it’s your turn, they’ll return the favor. It’s your decision on the when and where and the bells and whistles- and you can’t hide trying to charge back your wedding choices by making your guests pay for their drinks. They see this as you taking away their hopes for a fun night by also making them pay off your wedding debt – ouch, right? You’ve lost some friendship points now.

One of the questions I ask potential clients in every consult is what they remember from a wedding they attended that they DIDN’T like? The top answer (if not “bad food”, though it’s a close second) is having to pay for alcohol.

To circle back to the above on “loonie/toonie bars” above – when I explain this math to my Canadian clients, they’re often surprised to learn how minimal the savings are. The ballpark average savings for a 150 guest wedding is in the range of $2,000, with the couple still footing a bill of around $3000+ for the rest of the alcohol. In the grand scheme of a $40,000+ wedding, you are better off pulling this money from other areas in your budget than risking the backlash from your guests.

Yes, you spend a considerable fortune on making your day extra special, but where you choose to give and take will reflect on your guests’ memories. When the first memory your guests will recall is of paying out of their own pocket to have a fun time, do the extra lights and upgraded décor even matter?

The great news is, there ARE ways to keep your guests happy without making them pull out their wallets. However, it’s going to require a real and honest review of your wedding expenses.

Offer wine instead of mixed drinks

ALTERNATIVE OPTIONS

Serving alcohol at a wedding is expensive, but there are always ways you can cut costs.

  • Cutting back your guest list, (the largest budget saver);
  • Reassessing your décor rental items (using venue chairs, standard linens, etc.,); Ordering smaller or different floral arrangements;
  • Hand delivering invitations instead of mailing where possible;
  • Skipping on ceremony programs and other extra wedding day stationery.

 Offer signature drinks

If you’re not willing to pull back on other expenses, you can even discuss options with your venue in terms of the bar itself. Using standard instead of top-shelf liquors, offering just beer and wine or a signature cocktail are still ways of offering your guests a way to have a few celebratory drinks while not incurring a higher bar tab (and never, ever allow your guests to order shots!)

Offer beer and wine

In the end, remember that the decision to have a wedding and reception was up to you and as the host of the celebration, your guests’ enjoyment should be your ultimate goal. If you had a party in your home, you wouldn’t make your friends pay for a drink there – the same concept applies regardless of the size or location of the party. The expense of the bar shouldn’t be looked at any differently than the many other costs that add up for the wedding- but when you see everyone dancing, smiling, and celebrating your love I promise you’ll remember it was worth every penny!

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BIO: Chelsea Roy is a wedding and event planner and the owner of Everything But The Ring, which is based out of Houston, Texas.  Originally born and raised in Calgary, Alberta, Canada, Chelsea has planned weddings across both Canada and the USA as well as Mexico.

Website: www.EBTRweddings.com

Social Media: @EBTRweddings

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